Body Image, Sex & Relationships

The definition of body image is how a person feels and thinks about their own physical appearance.  Although it seems obvious to some, most people still don't understand the huge role that it plays in sex.   When people read about a person with a negative self image, they will most likely imagine an unattractive woman who's frigid in bed.  Yet problematic body image is not just a women's issue.  And it plagues more so-called attractive and sexual people than you could ever imagine.

I believe society in general is at fault.   Everyone in magazines and on TV looks like a model.  The frequency of plastic surgery procedures is at an all time high.   We're bombarded with advertisements for makeup and hair loss products daily.  All in all, we are shallow people… and many (women in particular) take it very personally.

Since people tend to be hard on themselves more than anyone else, they usually see themselves in a unhealthy light that most others won't agree with.  A healthy body image is very important to your self esteem, relationship, and sex life.  Psychologists and counselors all agree that a negative perception of one's own body is directly related to low self-esteem.

Negative body image is one of the biggest obstacles of good sex.  A large part of sex has to do with how comfortable a person feels about themselves.  Negative feelings about yourself can also ruin a relationship.  Confidence is one of the most attractive traits of all, and some people sadly don't have it.

Those with poor body image may have a hard time getting beyond their physical insecurity so they can enjoy sex.  They may experience little or no desire for sex as a result.  This is not easily solved, but in order to be able to enjoy sex again, you have to take control of your negative thoughts, and develop a positive body image.

You have to communicate with your partner, if any one of you is feeling insecure about yourself.  With positive thoughts, encouragement and communication, many people will be able to get over their negative body image.  Both partners should play a role in making the relationship a comfortable place.

However, some people/couples may need more help than others.  I've seen men on the Dr. Phil show who constantly humiliate their wives by commenting on how much weight she's gained while pregnant and things like that.  It surprises me to see the number of men who have appeared on the show and made a complete ass of themselves on national TV.  This is also a problem with many parents and even peers.  People facing those situations need serious professional help.  In these cases I highly recommend counseling.

Body image is important because it affects many aspects of your life.  A poor body image is a universal problem.  It's a struggle that many face, so please be sensitive to those who deal with negative body image, and please seek help if you face this problem.

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